Loving Yoursef

Hello gentle people of planet Earth.  Loving yourself can seem daunting at times. We live in a very negative world, where the loudest and nastiest voice seem to get all of the attention.  Humans learn by example, and when our supposed ‘role models’ are filled with hate and venom they can make even the strongest person feel less than. How does one build a defense mechanism, or shall I say an antidote to this poisionous venom? Here are 5 helpful tips to eliminate self-hate and shake off the bullshit.

1) Before taking your morning constitution, look into the mirror and say, “i am the fiercest ____________ (insert your gender identication here) in all the land.”   “No one will be bring me down and make me feel bad about myself. I love myself and haters beware.” 

2) Put some effort into your appearance. Before leaving the house, look into the mirror and say, “Is this how I want the world to see me?” That does not mean you have to be wearing the latest Paris fashions to feel presentable and fierce. It could be as simple as combing your hair, brushing your teeth, and putting on a clean pair of swears pants. Leaving the house knowing that if you were hit by a car and laid out the pavement, passerby’s would say, “She’s bleeding out, but doesn’t she look just lovely.”

3) Hang out with people who feel good about themselves. My good friend, Elaine Stritch, would say after her 5th cocktail of the day, “Stick with the winners honey!”  What that means, is spend time with people who love and respect themselves. Stay away from negative people, because negativity is as contagious as the common cold.

4) Find a job that you love. Do something that brings joy and service to the world, while creating an income for yourself. There is no shame in earning money for something that brings a helpful service to the world. After all you need to take care of yourself, otherwise you cant take of others. If you happen to be in a job that you hate (grave digger, dentist, republican politician or mime) keep the focus off of how much you hate the job and place the focus on others. It seems like an oxymoron, but self forgetting is the ultimate way to loving yourself. 

5) Eat well and exercise. We are what we eat. When I fill myself with Devil Dogs and Twinkies, I become a devil dog and a Twinkie-cream filled with a soft sugary outside. Hmm, the cream part does not sound so bad. Too much sugar clouds my mind and after a binge I tend to put myself down. 

Keep these tips in mind and you will live long and prosper. 

Stay fresh  and fab,


The dead mothers club

Hello gentle Americans. I am coming out of a long slumber and will begin my weekly blog posts. Truth be told, after my mother died (4years ago) depression took hold. Things that I used to enjoy doing (writing, blogging and such) just fell away without me even realizing it. I have become the Rip Van Winkle of drag sect and am slowly opening my eyes, trying to connect with the things that used to be bring me joy. 

Being part of the dead mothers club has been a difficult journey. But of course there is humor to it all. When someone asks about my parents, I look them in the eyes and say, "My mother is dead." No emotion, just very mater of factly. I do not tell them how she died. Could it be a boating accident, hot air balloon disaster or a freak fall off a cruise ship? I leave that up to the listener. What's the point of having a dead mother if you can't use her for dramatic purposes?  

Stay fresh, 

x Hedda Lettuce  



drawing by Hedda Lettuce